Letting Go …
Leadership is hard. Whether you are trying to lead a team or your children. When we first start out we want to be the boss, then we aspire to be leaders. Then we are in a position to become one and we discover how hard it is, how it doesn’t come naturally and that only about 1% of the population have that innate gift and the rest of it have to work hard at it.
One of the things I think is most important about leadership is seeing qualities other people don’t see in themselves and gradually planting seeds until they can see it themselves. It can often be a long hard road because many times along that path we run into obstacles. All of the baggage from a life time of experiences… irrational beliefs, insecurities, doubts and family history pop up and try and block success. My friend Dominique puts it best… they are wallowing in the junk in their trunk. When we are doing that, frolicking in our baggage it feels comfortable. We’re used to it and even though it doesn’t feel good, it feels like a a safe place. Climbing out of that truck, dusting off the junk and trying to move forward is hard and it is scary.
When we are around someone who is living in the junk in their trunk it is equally hard. It sounds so simple when people say, if you are coming from a good place and they react, you’ve just triggered something and it is all about them and not you. We can’t take that on and hold it because it isn’t ours, it is theirs and we have to separate that and not take it on. It can be especially hard if it triggers the junk in your trunk (we all have some). But we have to let it go. It sounds easy but it can be very hard. I use essential oils to do it. There are a lot of recipes for letting go but my favorite is very simple…
- 30 drops Frankincense
- 30 drops Wild Orange
- 15 drops Bergamot
- Finish with by filling roller ball with Fractionated Coconut Oil.
Then apply to your wrists and breathe in deeply. Repeat as often as you need.
Another tip is to put Repellant Blend on your wrists and behind your ears where you are going to be around someone you know has a lot of junk in their trunk or easily triggers you. Hope this helps and have a great day.