Do you internalize things? Have inner chatter going on in the back of your mind about something that is bothering you? I know I do. I’m an innate problem solver. The belief that every problem can be solved with a reasonable solution is something that is hard-wired in me. When there is a problem I can’t solve it can drive me bat shit crazy.
The problems I can’t solve, all have one common denominator: people. There is always at least one other person in it. I suspect it is the same for everyone. Whether that person is a friend, family, neighbor or co-worker, there is always a human component in it. The reason why is simple… others have their own beliefs, wants and desires. Beliefs are one of those things that aren’t always rational. We all have beliefs and we tend to hold on to them when we will let all else go. I’m reminded of many years ago those people that drank poisoned Kool-Aid because they believed it was going to take them to a better place. Looking at it from the outside, almost all of us would say that is just completely irrational. But, it wasn’t to them. All beliefs are like that, whether it is religion, politics, or what you made up about yourself when you a child. All people have beliefs. Some are empowering and some are disempowering. That is when we get an unsolvable problem; when rational and logical are out the window, we can’t solve.
For some of us, that is when the internalizing and mind chatter start. We go into this unending loop of trying to understand or fix it, yet it can’t be fixed. For me the pattern usually either starts first thing in the morning when I wake up, making me wonder if that is what my brain was doing all night instead of getting deep restorative sleep or after my morning coffee when my brain starts waking up. (Yes I know it is a horrible habit).
So what do you do when that comes up? I could spend all day fixating on it and come up with the same solution: there isn’t one. Or I can just take a step back, recognize that when people are involved there isn’t anything we can do and we’ve run up against a belief. It could be ours, it could be theirs or it could be both. For me, to break that cycle I take a drop of Frankincense, a drop of Bergamot and a drop of Wild Orange essential oil and put it on my wrists and rub it in and inhale deeply. I love to diffuse it too. I even have a roller ball made up of it.
Then I open my journal and write it all down. Then I deeply inhale my oils again and say out loud “I am at peace with ___________” or “I forgive _____________ for not being wiser and more aware. Then I bless and release.
For me, it took a long time to get to this place and it is one I’m still working on. My goal is peace. I love the feeling of being at peace. It allows me to enjoy life and have joy. Maybe it was my family upbringing, maybe it is that I’m introverted or maybe it is my INTJ-ness*, but whatever it is, I’m enjoying my journey toward inner peace and am thankful for the oils that help me let go.
*INTJ is a personality type from the Myers Briggs Personality Type Indicator test.
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